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How To Text An Ex Girlfriend After No Contact

    After closing a past relationship, the best way to establish the first contact with your ex girlfriend after many days of no contact is probably to send her a simple text message. This is one of the easiest ways, much easier than making a phone call, and much more discreet than contacting her on social media.

    Texting is a great way to stay in touch with your ex girlfriend, but can also be a daunting task. However, you may not know what to say or how to start the conversation.

    Here are some tips on how to text an ex girlfriend after no contact without making things awkward.

    Figure Out What You Want to Text Her

    It might be difficult to know what to say when messaging an ex girlfriend after a period of no contact, and which is the best type of text message you should send.

    The first text after a long time could be considered as an indirect way to set the stage for future conversations.

    Some ideas to get started:

    • Express your feelings about the breakup in a general way, without getting too personal.
    • Tell her how much you miss her and how much your thoughts have been revolving around her lately.
    • Ask about her well-being and if she’s been doing okay.
    • Tell her that you’re sorry for the way things ended and that you hope she’s doing well.

    To understand which is the right direction to take and the first move to make (and avoid the biggest mistakes), you could also seek advice from trusted people, such as a family member or your best friends.

    Decide on the Right Time to Send the Text

    There’s no right or wrong time to send a text message to an ex girlfriend, but there are certain things you should consider before hitting “send.” For one, you’ll want to make sure that the timing is right for both of you. If your ex is currently going through a tough time or isn’t in the mood for communication, sending a text message at this point may not be the best idea.

    Consider Her Feelings

    Additionally, consider how she may feel about the message once she receives it. Will it make her feel better if you send something light and positive, or will something more serious and personal work better? Once again, there’s no right or wrong answer here – just take into account what might work best for both of you.

    Write Casual and Friendly Text Messages

    If you have been in a relationship with a girl and things have gone sour, there may be a chance that you might want to text her. However, before you do, it is important to remember that any type of contact between the two of you should be casual and friendly.

    The first thing is to make sure that you are communicating with your ex girlfriend in a way that is comfortable for both of you. Sometimes people will text or talk too much about their problems instead of focusing on the good times they had together. If your ex girlfriend feels like she is being pulled into a conversation where she doesn’t want to be, she may shy away from responding.

    Another thing you can do is try and find common  interests between you and your ex girlfriend. This can be something as simple as watching the same TV show or going to the same concerts. This will help you to connect on a deeper level and make conversation more enjoyable for both of you.

    Here are some suggestions on how to text an ex girlfriend after a period of no contact:

    1. Start by texting her a quick hello and asking how she is doing. This will show that you care about her and want to keep in touch.
    2. Next, try sending them a simple question about her day or what she is up to. This will show that you are interested in hearing from her and aren’t just trying to start up a conversation

    Send Her a Compliment

    It might be difficult to text a former girlfriend, but it’s important to send her a compliment.

    Here are a few ideas to get you started:

    • Tell her how beautiful she looks.
    • Say something clever about her outfit.
    • Thank her for something she did for you in the past.

    Here are a few examples:

    “Hey, I saw that you were wearing my necklace! It looks great on you.”

    “You always make me feel so special. I’m glad we still have this connection.”

    These types of messages show that you still care about your ex girlfriend and are looking to maintain the relationship.

    You may also want to send her small gifts or flowers on special occasions to show your affection.

    Ask About What She Did in Her Day

    If you have been texting or talking to your ex girlfriend for a while and things have been going well, but you just don’t feel the same connection as before, there may be a reason. It’s natural to want to know what your ex is up to, so ask her about what she did in her day. This will give you some insight into her life and might even reignite the flame of your old relationship.

    Here are a few ideas:

    “Hey, what did you do today?”

    “So how was your day? Did anything interesting happen?”

    “How was your day today? I hope you had a lot of fun.”

    “Hey, I saw on Facebook that you went to the park with your friends. What was it like?”

    “Hey, I saw on Facebook that you went to the movies with your friends. What did you think?”

    Add a Picture or Video

    If you want to add a picture or video to your text message, there are a few things to keep in mind.

    First, make sure that the picture or video is safe for viewing by your ex girlfriend.

    Second, be sure to choose a picture or video that will make her laugh or smile.

    Finally, be sure to send your text message with plenty of energy and enthusiasm!

    Talk about the past (if you want)

    If you want to talk about the past, there are a few things you can do.

    First, be honest with each other. If one of you isn’t comfortable talking about something, that’s okay. Just be respectful of each other’s wishes and don’t force the issue.

    Second, try to think back to the old times. A good idea is to focus the conversation on the great time you spent together and the good memories you got from that. What made you happy? What are your favorite memories? A good example is talking about your first date and the positive memory that it can bring you both.

    Finally, if either of you feels like talking about the breakup specifically is too painful, simply say so and discuss something else instead. There’s no right or wrong way to approach text messaging an ex girlfriend after no contact; it just depends on what works for both of you.

    How to Say I Love You Without Being Creepy

    When it comes to texting an ex girlfriend about your feelings, there are a few things that you need to keep in mind.

    First and foremost, make sure that you are polite and respectful of her privacy. Do not send her intimate pictures or messages that could be considered creepy or inappropriate. Do the right thing and absolutely avoid any kind of abusive relationships. Instead, try to send her words of love and appreciation.

    If you’re feeling a little shy, remember that texting is a great way to keep in touch without having to face each other directly. Don’t be afraid to express your feelings in a simple, heartfelt way.

    If you have been texting or talking to your ex girlfriend and things have been going great, but you just can’t seem to get that spark back, don’t worry. You need to be patient. It may take some time for things to heat up again, but don’t give up on your relationship too soon.

    Give Her Time and Space

    After a long no contact period, you can’t pretend to be in your ex’s mind. You can’t expect to have your ex’s attention immediately. You need to give her enough time.

    There will be a good reason if your ex texts don’t come back to you straight away. She is a human being like anybody else, and could be busy in her daily life. She might answer the following day. The last thing you want is to be too pushy.

    If she is starting a new relationship with a new partner, then having high expectations of obtaining a second chance could become a waste of time. At that point, an important thing to do is to take a deep breath and try to focus your attention on different things, such as meeting with new people.

    Do Not Overthink

    Remember to do not overthink things. If something feels wrong or uncomfortable, trust your gut and stop contact immediately. If all of the attempts to establish a contact with her fail, sometimes it’s best just to give up on trying to get back together and move on. No matter what, always try to keep in mind that your ex girlfriend is probably doing just fine without you.

    Final Thoughts

    Being an ex boyfriend (especially for the first time) could be a tricky situation to handle for a lot of people. After a short period of time, you might find yourself in a difficult emotional state. An important step (and probably the best thing) after a bad breakup is to escape from negative feelings such as feelings of loneliness.

    Texting an ex girlfriend is a great way to stay in touch. Remember to be respectful and understanding. Be always polite, and don’t come across as desperate or creepy.

    If things are going great, be patient and wait for the right chance. Things may take some time.

     

    Additional Resources:

    5 Essential Things You Must Do After No Contact (If You Really Want Your Ex Back)

    7 Dumb Mistakes People Make After No Contact and How to Avoid Them

    15 first texts to break the silence after no contact! 5 extra tips on what to say